There are two things you can do that will immediately improve your experience with men: 1. Know what you want and must have, and make sure it’s the “Grownup You” doing the picking; not the 18-year-old who still expects all kinds of wacky things that no longer matter and wouldn’t make you happy anyway. Aren’t your “quirks” what you want men to love about you? • How does this belief impact your actions (or inaction), and how is that affecting your outcomes? Yep, that’s a surefire way to avoid ever being hurt or rejected.Be willing to forgo the idea of perfection and find a REAL man. ) Here are some action steps to get you started: • Get honest with yourself by getting to the core of your belief that there are no quality men. If you believed otherwise, how would it change your dating experiences? (Listen, I was the master of this, but finally learned how I consistently self sabotaged.As a woman over forty, you need to do a little extra work. And as time goes on, you’ll likely tweak some of these decisions.Considering some things up front, however, gives you a tentative roadmap and, more importantly, an expanded awareness.
Let’s face it, meeting men is hard, especially if you are over 40. Your circle of friends is either the same it’s been for years, or post-divorce you are now creating new friendships.I want you to have fun, be open to new things, and enjoy the experience; just do it consciously and like the grownup woman that you are. Well a few are still out there; they just have gray hair now.You need to be able to deal with them in a classy yet direct manner; the best way is to have a good sense of what you want and who you will “be” out there. Stand Out Plain and simple: you have competition girlfriend. Another Father’s Day without my Dad, who left us in 2012. His last several years were difficult, filled with numerous medical issues and a wife who was unable to deal… Definition: “Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and nonjudgmentally.” Jon Kabat-Zinn Sounds simple and kinda easy, right? I’m writing this as my husband, Larry, and I drive back from our little hideaway in Baja. Making the plans with our friends, grabbing the passports and… You feel ready to move forward in your relationship and want a commitment to date exclusively. What is a smart, single, over 40 woman, who knows what she wants supposed… I did it for about 30 years and I experienced all the hurt, confusion, frustration, hopelessness, boredom, and exhaustion that comes with it. There are about 45 million single men over the age of 35 in the United States, about 7 million in Britain and 2 million in Australia. And before you say…but, Bobbi, these aren’t quality men. If you’re like I used to be as a single gal, it’s because it gives you permission to stay the same and stay single. Unless he spits when he talks, smells, or is drunk; give him a chance.